As a mum of four I have to say I do try to do most of my shopping online. It just makes life easier generally.
However, there are those times when I forget things or simply run out of things and I have to tackle the supermarket with the children.
Now, to some people the thought of going to a supermarket with one child is daunting never mind four, but I have to say that’s not what I find difficult…parking is what I find difficult. There is plenty of UK parking signage around the car parks which is very helpful in directing me, but it’s how people often behave in a car park that gets to me.
Have any of you ever challenged anyone without children who is parked in the parent and child spaces? I have done this several times…because it really bothers me. Just as much as when I see someone without a blue badge or mobility problems parking in a disabled bay.
I don’t know why I waste my breath on these people because they NEVER get it but I can’t help myself because there is such an injustice to it. So tonight, I challenged someone…
I actually got a parent and child space tonight but had noticed another mum who hadn’t, struggling to get her baby out of the car in her car seat. I’ve been there, several times and it isn’t pretty.
You are in so tight to the car next to you that you have to tip the baby seat on its side just to get it out of the tiny gap, or worst, get the baby out first then lie them on the front seat to get the car seat out.
So, I shout over to the 60-something woman in the bay next to me without a child or child’s seat anywhere to be seen in her tiny sports car ….”Excuse me, do you realise you are parked in a parent and child space?” “Yes I do” she replies”. Oh right” I say “Is there any reason you are? Because if you have a blue badge there are about 40 disabled spaces free” .”I don’t have to explain myself to the likes of you” she said, getting quickly irritated with me, “What’s your problem anyway, you have a parent and child space”. “Yes I do, but I have just watched a mum over there struggle because you are parked in a space she needs” I reply. “You parents shouldn’t be so (insert expletive) lazy and just walk into the shop like everyone else” she said.
“Erm, firstly what you just said doesn’t even make sense and secondly it isn’t the distance from the shops that is the issue, it is the size of the space, I haven’t got a problem walking further but it is physically impossible sometimes to get children and seats out of the car in a ‘normal’ space” I respond. “You are just lazy” she ends with this, gets into her sports car and drives off as I stand there, one tiny one strapped to my chest and a toddler balanced on my hip.
These kinds of exchanges make my blood boil. This woman would be the first to complain if I scratched or dented her precious sports car because there wasn’t room to get out.
What can we do about this? Anything? I have mentioned it to the staff in shops before and they say they can’t do anything – so whose responsibility is this to police?